I went to a birthday party on Saturday night at Anne's house in Chiswick. It was her mother Betty's birthday and a comfortable mix of family and friends were invited. There was a couple there who I decided a couple of years ago that I don't like much. It's never been a big deal and Anne knew about it - really it was just a case of getting off on the wrong foot and me choosing to take against them.

During a text exchange last week with Anne the subject came up and she sent me the following message:-

'Coach yrself on 2nd chances 4 people!'

This was a throw-away comment from Anne, who has no interest in coaching or the field of personal development. However, it did make me think. I have an excellent reputation as a coach but have formed a negative opinion about a couple and I have not considered reviewing this opinion. Is that an evolved way to carry on? Does it demonstrate emotional intelligence? Are there other people who deserve a second chance from me?

It took minimal effort from me to be nice and make things right between us. It also made the party more enjoyable. I'm going to try this second chance lark again soon. Give it a go - it's a good thing!