I spent two days this week working as an evaluator for Christopher Howard Training. I met some amazing new people and hope I'll stay in touch with some of them.

Towards the end of the second day I had a call to say that one of my oldest and dearest friends, Michael Summerton, had passed away. I left the training straight away and went to meet up with some other close friends of Michael. We had some drinks, went for dinner and remembered some of the fun and fabulous times we'd all spent together. There were many.

The theme of loss often comes up when I'm coaching. I often explain the law of Attachment/Detachment. For every attachment you make in your life, there will be a detachment. An attachment can last for thirty seconds or a life time. But it will be followed by a detachment. My attachment to Michael began in 1983 when he managed the group Hot Gossip - Arlene Phillips has remained a close friend and client of Michael to this day. He was, quite simply, the funniest person I've ever met. He was also very successful in the entertainment field, hugely popular and very kind. We had a lovely holiday together in St Lucia at the end of last year and we spent Easter at Sandbanks on the south coast.

And now, like all his other friends, I'm trying to come to terms with Michael's death. Detachment. Does realising the law of Attachment/Detachment make this any easier? Forty eight hours after his death, probably not. Is it even supposed to? I'll try the pearl of wisdom from last week (Loss is the Motor... etc) and see if that works...